#6 #GiveYourMoneyToWomen
- Katt Anomia
- May 31, 2015
- 6 min read
I'm going out of order. I have a whole list of things I want to write about, but this thing that just popped up is itching at me more than how much fun I had at KrakenCon (hint: it was a lot). So I'm benching the KrakenCon post I was going to write and writing about this thing instead.
It started with this.
Sure whatever. I work in adult entertainment. I know some super successful findoms. My initial response, per usual, is complete apathy. I'm Katt. I'm True Neutral. You do you, I'll do me, everybody's happy.
But then...it kept going. Seriously guys, the vitriol is real here. I find it baffling, saddening, and maddening. I seriously cannot wrap my head around this hashtag. I'm going to post a few favorites here, but you can always look it up yourself.
Let's start here. This is one of the more harmless ones. Of course you should charge your clients for the work you do! And you certainly shouldn't feel guilty for it. My problem is that this isn't an issue. I would love to hear from any woman who is not getting paid to do her job. It's actually illegal and you can sue - and make way more money than any dweeb on the Internet is going to send to your PayPal!
Nobody is forcing you to give out advice. People give advice to others out of kindness. If you want to make money off it, start a business.
This is not a gender issue. #GiveYourMoneyToArtists
Finally, something I can relate to! I'm sorry you had to go through that. I, too, cost my family upwards of 10k after dealing with my own sexual based trauma. But, if I truly want compensation, I'm going to go after the person who committed the crime. Dear readers, you don't owe me a dime for what some other asshat did to me. Just keep being awesome. (:
Guys, money is not the antithesis to sexism. If you want to help stop sexism, don't be sexist and speak up when you see it. It really is that simple.
Protip: maybe don't have unprotected sex with someone who refuses to get tested? Also not a gender issue. Don't give money to women. Give money to your care provider (who may or may not be a woman) and get tested! =D Have safe sex, everyone!
I love this one. Let's start with housewifing. In a healthy relationship, this is a division of labor. Husband earns the income. Wife keeps the house. Income is split because you're married. If you want an income, talk to your husband about getting a job (not because you need permission from a man but because large decisions should be made WITH your partner). If you want an allowance, talk to your husband about what you can afford as a couple.
You don't deserve money for emotional baggage. We all have it. This is not a gender issue.
Is this a thing? No seriously, I'm curious. I've never heard of this being a normalized thing. Regardless, men and women do favors for other men and women. Humans do favors for each other out of kindness, not out of desire for compensation. Want to make money? Start a business. Be a writer. Nobody owes you anything,
This is not a gender issue. Anyone can (and does) get doxxed. Tweets are public domain and anyone can use them in their articles. Don't like it? Read the ToS before you sign up for things.
Not only is this fact outdated (it's from the 70's, guys), it's also been debunked.
Good question. How many? At this point, I feel like we're just throwing accusations around for fun. On the bright side, work harassment and assault are already illegal, so if you find yourself in this predicament GO TO THE POLICE. Don't tell men to give you money.
Also, remember: anyone can be a criminal, and anyone can be the victim of a crime. Painting women as victims and men as criminals is harmful to society. Feminism is about celebrating female STRENGTH.
I kind of covered this earlier, but educating others is a choice. And if you're an activist, it's a smart choice. It's part of the "Active" part of activism. You don't get paid for that. It's a volunteer gig that you do because you're passionate about it. If you want to get paid to teach, be a teacher.
(13) And finally, the original poster describes what #GiveYourMoneyToWomen is all about:
No. This isn't how the world works. Emotional labor? No. Not unless you're in an emotionally draining profession. Physical labor? Not unless you're in a physically demanding profession. Sexual labor? Not unless you're a sex worker (I mean seriously? You're demanding payment for consensual sex? If sex isn't all the payment you need, then you're doing it wrong.). Intellectual labor? Not unless you're in an intellectual profession. The key word here is profession. That is how money works. That is the ONLY time it is owed to you outside of court grievances (and even some of those are suspect).
I seriously cannot even handle how ridiculous this hashtag seems to me. I feel baffled, amused, and kind of sick all at once. My roommate, who identifies strongly as a feminist, is so depressed by how backwards and misguided this hashtag is for all women.
Ohhh. I just don't understand 'cause I'm white and I was born with my vagina. My bad.
In all seriousness, the rights of minorities and particularly trans folk are super important to me. Work discrimination is a very real thing for many transgendered folks, and that is a problem. A problem we need to be talking about. But this entire hashtag wants to silence activists unless there is monetary compensation? How is that smart? The whole point of activism is to change minds. Minds that don't see your plight or understand it. People who cannot see a problem cannot pay to learn about it. We HAVE to maintain that dialogue. That is the job of the activist.
#GiveYourMoneyToWomen is a perfect hashtag if you're a FinDomme. After all, this is exactly what their fetish is all about. But #NotAllWomen are FinDommes!
#GiveYourMoneyToWomen is anti-feminist. It paints women as victims instead of the strong individuals they are.
#GiveYourMoneyToWomen - potentially the first ever common enemy for MRAs and Feminists. Good job!
#GiveYourMoneyToWomen! But only if they're providing a service you deem valuable, leading a cause you deem worthy, or creating something you want more of. Also #GiveYourMoneyToMen for the same things.
Can we also talk about how men are already pressured to #GiveYourMoneyToWomen? Isn't that part of what feminism is fighting against?
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