#12 Katt's Fetish Academy: ABDL

What: ABDL stands for Adult Baby/Diaper Lover. Keep in mind that everyone engages in their fetishes differently, and what I'm going to describe is representative of my experiences and knowledge and it may not apply to everyone within this fetish. ABDL is a roleplay fetish that typically involves someone regressing to an infant-like state, including wearing (and sometimes using) diapers. This fetish may or may not include sucking on binkies, nursing on a "mommy" figure, potty accidents, being fed, and being unable to speak. ABDL is two fetishes combined: ageplay (specifically infantilism) and diaper fetishism. Some ABDL scenes involve masturbation/ejaculation while others do not. It is not related to pedophilia or any other form of child abuse.

Why: Unfortunately, not much has been researched about ABDL psychology. This is partially because there is no real need. It does not typically get in the way of day to day living and causes no problem for the ABDL. Another reason is due to the fact that these people are often punished for coming out about their fetish. They are stigmatized, bullied, and made fun of, causing the fetish to be heavily closeted. Some ABDL fetishism is closely related to masochism, in that they enjoy the humiliation of the roleplay. This type of ABDL may also be spanked, grounded, or undergo other forms of punishment, sometimes enjoying simulated force into the roleplay itself. It's about helplessness and innocence. Other ABDLs prefer a more gentle approach, looking for an escape from adult responsibility and a nurturing environment, a release from stress. Some are a mix between the two. Imagine how nice it would feel to just have someone hold you, to care for you, and to let go of all the stress of being an adult!

Who: The majority of ABDLs are straight men. The fetish usually begins around age 11, and practice of the fetish usually begins around age 13.

Personal Experience: Although I myself do not have this fetish, I have spoken to many individuals who do and there are aspects of it that I can relate to. I've had many requests to roleplay the part of a Mommy on cam, but unfortunately I'm not quite sure how to go about that. I am naturally very nurturing, as many of you can tell by the obscene number of animals I've taken into my care. I am also fiercely protective of children, though I have no desire to have my own. This is something I have no desire to explore within my personal life, but I am curious to get to know it better in my professional life. It's an interesting fetish, even if it is not one I identify with. One of the things I love about my job is getting to know other fetishes up close and personally!

I do have a "little" side to me that loves ageplay! And while regressing to an infant state of mind does not come naturally, it is something that is not terribly difficult for me to get into. I do offer ABDL roleplay, including wearing diapers and sucking on a binky, during cam shows! With my oral fixation, I do really like sucking on things in general, so my binky is actually awesome. =P And I totally have a Daddy roleplay fetish! Actually wetting a diaper, however, is not something that interests me and is one of my limits on cam. I like feeling clean, and sitting in my own urine would be a direct turn off. While I'm willing to engage in many fetishes that I do not possess, and even enjoy doing so (I SERIOUSLY get off on getting people off!), I simply cannot sexualize urine. Infantilism, again, is not a fetish of mine and not something I'm particularly interested in within my personal life, but I will totally get into it in my professional life as it is very close to other fetishes of mine (ageplay and petplay) so long as that one limit is respected.

Is it a strange fetish? Totally! Should anyone be shamed for it? Never! Remember folks, you do not have to share a fetish or even understand it in order to respect it. Nobody chooses their fetishes and it's unfair for some to be more stigmatized than others. ABDLs are typically healthy, happy individuals with no signs of trauma in their early life, and they absolutely deserve respect as individuals.

I can relate to fetishizing a mommy/daddy figure. It feels so good, so warm, so safe, to be able to let go and have someone else take care of you. To rub your back, hold you close, worry about the bills. I can relate to the release of stress when someone else is in charge of your life. I can relate to a desire to be innocent forever. I can relate to the freedom of not having to worry about releasing your emotions.

I have trouble fetishizing diapers. I don't personally find them attractive, but I am willing to wear one if it will get you off because I LOVE getting you off. I cannot relate to ageplay as a humiliation fetish because I do not have a humiliation fetish. I have trouble relating to the desire to sit in your own urine, because I feel sexiest when I am clean. But just because your fetish isn't my fetish doesn't mean it's a bad fetish! Diversity is AWESOME and I'm so glad to have met such interesting individuals.

Keep on carrying on!

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